To anybody who actually reads this blog, you may have noticed that I mostly write about things that are a little bit deeper in nature than perhaps just what happens to me on a day to day basis. If a daily update is what you were looking for I do sincerely apologize but the only times I feel like writing are when I cannot always express what I want to say vocally, so I try to write it out. However, I am also not trying to be that super deep kid who constantly challenges people to try better in things. I'm just writing what's on my mind. There's a lot in there, let's see what flies out today.
First things first. I'm listening to Castle of Glass right now by Linkin Park. Go listen. As in pull up a new tab, load that on youtube, wait for the "skip ad" button and then start listening. Then, and only then, you can come back to reading. :)
Lately, I've been spending some time thinking about the relationships that I'm in. Family, friends, coworkers, etc. I like talking to people. Getting to know people. Having fun with people. One problem I encounter is that this energy is not always returned by the other person. Clearly all people are different. That is fine. Some people just think differently than I do. Actually most do.
My view of a friendship consists of a good deal of communication. Friends stay in touch. Friends ask their other friends how they are doing. Friends actually want to hear about their other friend's lives. This goes for any relationship. My family members are my friends, my friends are friends, my coworkers are friends. People need others to talk to and who else could be better than the people you feel closest to.
Maybe I'm over the top but I just feel like people don't communicate enough with people they consider close friends. It's the "hey, over the summer let's for real stay in touch you know?" which turns into maybe one facebook message a month, if that. I'm so guilty of it too and it really bothers me. We all have phones. How difficult is it to have a texting conversation, or even a phone call! But let's be real, who talks on the phone now a days. However, now that almost the entire world except myself and 7 other people have smart phones, (and you know that you are on yours allllll the time) why don't we use them to connect to our favorite people.
Summer is really when you find out who you will continue to be friends with after college when everyone goes their separate ways. The people who actually want to talk and stay in touch are the people who you will make an effort to see 10 years from now. But this has made me realize that I can't really be close friends with everybody. It would be so exhausting to stay in touch with hundreds of people constantly. The trick is finding those close quality friends and growing with them. Put the effort into relationships that matter to you, and if they matter to the other person, that effort will be returned to you as well. Friendship is a two way street.
At the same time, sometimes I find myself focusing too much on what others want, or what others think of me. I have goals, I have needs, I must do things for me as well as for others. Truly the only way that we can be great friends and love others is if we already love ourselves for who God made us to be. Ain't that the truth.
Do unto others as you would have done to yourself.
AND
Treat yourself as you treat others.
"I need you. You need me. We're all a part of God's body.
Stand with me, agree with me. We're all a part of God's body.
It is His will that every need be supplied.
You are important to me, I need you to survive."
Quantity is good. Quality is better.
PS. Low key the NFL season needs to start now.
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